Our Weight Watchers meeting topic yesterday was quite timely. It was centered around taking care of yourself. My Mom has always claimed that “Heather’s good to Heather.” but I tend to think that pertained to me in my 20′s. Right now in my life, that doesn’t pertain to me very much.
Hell, I’m a mother. So right there that knocks me down a wrung or two. The amount of participation in the meeting was quite telling. Our leader Sandy asked “What do you do to find ‘me’ time?” As a group, we had maybe 3 bullet points. Not alot. And then you look around the room and it is 98% women. So I thought about it. What does my list look like? In the past week here’s a ballpark:
1) Work. All Red Cross, all the time. Not an exaggeration. I worked 7 days this week. And this week had 3 – 12 hour days mixed in for good luck. Not uncommon for people I know.
2) Logan. The little man sees me very little during the week so the minute I pick him up, he’s the focus. Any working parent knows this. Today was an afternoon of easter egg hunts and a movie. Joyful and happy. I loved every minute. He belongs near the top of the list.
3) Family and house. You know how this goes. Cooking. Laundry. Picking up. Grocery shopping. Life in general.
4) I spent more time on volunteer work than I did on working out. No lie. It’s part of the responsibility of being a Board Chair.
5) Working out. This puppy needs to come up. If I’m going to achieve my health goals, I need to do better. I did the dreaded “I’m so tired. I’m just going to sleep a little more this morning and work out tonight.” two times last week. Then the night came and I was sound asleep on the couch by 9:15. But by ‘sleeping a bit more’ that mean 5:45 instead of 5:00 am. The usual wake up time.
6) Me time. Me alone with my thoughts. Me taking the time to center myself. Honestly, this came mostly in the car, so does that even count? My writing of this blog I feel as if it’s ‘me’ time. And when I barely post, I feel like that is an indicator of how much time I am focusing on me and my health.
There is a saying that if you don’t take care of yourself, then you won’t be able to be there to take care of your family and the people you love. Yesterday at our meeting the questions was posed, “How well do you ask for help?”. I know for me, not well at all. But I think this is part of being a woman/Mom/wife/friend. We just don’t ask for help. We feel the need to do it all. When I was a little girl I always loved pretending to be Wonder Woman in my underroos and fake yellow glasses, but do I really need to strive to be her still now? Why don’t I put the guilt in it’s proper place and realize that taking 2 hours to myself on the weekend to work out and breathe isn’t going to make me a bad mother/wife/friend?
I have resolved to this week blocking time in the Outlook calendar just for me and actually doing it. I live and breathe by my Blackberry so I might as well use it to my advantage. It’s time to shift the list. I think you should try too. Think about where you are on that list and make it a goal to try and move the places around. Dare to put yourself higher in the rankings.
I’ll let you know how this week goes. I promise to be honest- with myself and with you.